By Dr. Russ,
Are you looking for an ally in optimism?
Wouldn’t it be cool if you had three to five people that you could contact anytime to get help finding a moment of optimism? I am going to call such a group: Allies for Optimism. What would be the criteria for an ally in optimism?
What purpose does an Ally in Optimism group serve?
- A reliable and positive source for renewal of optimism as needed in any moment, day, week, or month.
- A source for instant or nearly immediate help to get out of any moment of pessimism.
- A place to share and discuss reactions to a Moment-to-Moment post.
- A place to discuss the meaning and interpretation of a Moment-to-Moment post.
- A place to share a key quote, news story, article, book, page or chapter in a book, other blog post or internet site that is a source of positive motivation and inspiration for an optimistic view of a troubling or difficult circumstance of life.
Benefits of an Allies in Optimism Group
- Instant help with a pessimistic problem.
- Improved optimism skill and stamina
- If you have the following key thought every day when you get up or throughout the day, “What can I be doing today to try to help my Allies get more optimism in their day?” you will immediately experience more optimism. Even just thinking about how to help others with their optimism automatically improves your optimism.
Necessary Criteria for an Allies in Optimism Group
- Each ally is looking for someone to help him/her maintain optimism on a day to day basis.
- Even though an Ally may have many minor to major pessimistic moments during a day, each Ally believes that having an optimistic view is the key to a more positive life, happiness, health and satisfaction, and goal accomplishment.
- To form your group, consider professional colleagues, coworkers, friends, family, or relatives.
- Make sure each person in the group has a strong personal trust link to at least one other Ally in the group. For example: a group of five might be formed in the following manner. Person A knows Person B well and invites him to be an Ally. Person B accepts and says he knows someone that Person A does not know or knows slightly, who he (Person B), thinks would be a good Ally, and with concurrence of A, invites C to join the group. A and C find they have a mutual friend in Person D, and Person D invites his best friend E. In this group, everyone has one link who is a trusted colleague, friend or family member. Of course it would be possible to have a group in which everyone knows each other well to start with.
Key Steps to Make Your Allies for Optimism Group Work Effectively and Efficiently Day to Day
- Use any and all modes of communication especially email and social media, including Twitter and Facebook. I am thinking email would be the most common and used form of communication. But, I would love to hear about any and all creative uses of social media for this purpose.
- Old style face-to-face and phone conversations may and can play a role in your group’s communication.
- Read the Moment-to-Moment blog daily or at least every other day.
- Go through the past posts of the blog and bookmark your favorites; share them with your group members.
- Share something optimistic from the blog, the news, or other source three to four times a week if not daily.
- Ask for help with your optimism often and without hesitation. For example a quick Tweet to @name, @othername, @otherothername saying: “Need optimism. Got criticized by boss and feeling bummed.”
What Dr. Russ Buss Will do for You?
- Communicate confidentially with an identified liaison of each Allied group to give general suggestions, operational, and group support.
- Share general and non-personally-identifiable on-goings of the different groups. For example, “One group meets biweekly for lunch to discuss optimism.”
- Seek periodic updates from the group liaison about topics, frequency of contact, mode of contact, etc. from the liaison.
- Be available for questions via email to help with any problems in optimism that the group members are experiencing.
- Maintain strict confidentiality regarding identification of any group, group member or liaison.
- Will invite groups to submit guest blogs on how they are finding and supporting each other’s optimism.
- Provide help to anyone who wants to form a group.
How to get started?
Just email Dr. Russ and let him know either you:
- Are starting an Allies in Optimism group
- You have formed a group and are the liaison
- You want to form a group but have questions and need help, or
- You want Dr. Russ to place you in a group.
Email me at: email@example.com